A thought on "Parenting-The Indian Way"
A MAN COULD BE THE FATHER OF HIS SON'S FLESH BUT THAT DID NOT MEAN HE WAS ALSO THE FATHER OF HIS SPIRIT
Indian parents are so much in love with their kids that it can be easily labeled as Addiction. This attachment cause possessiveness and the desire to control the children even when they are grown up. They are overprotecting their kids.
They never want to see them doing any mistake so all the time watching over their shoulders. They have a knack for trying to get a better thing and hence they have developed a talent to compare. As soon as their kids start their little activities or school or sports the comparison starts. These comparisons just get louder and brutal as they grow up.
"THESE QUESTIONS HAUNT THEIR CHILDREN FOR REST OF THEIR LIVES"
Undermining their confidence and putting a real burden on them to prove that they are better buying.
"A MAN COULD BE THE FATHER OF HIS SON'S FLESH BUT THAT DID NOT MEAN HE WAS ALSO THE FATHER OF HIS SPIRIT"
When you pressurize someone to do something, that person automatically repels from that particular work.
Let me give you an example.
When you were a kid, your parents ask you to study more and play less. You feel studying is a duty and playing is a relaxation. Now you make excuses to play. Now let's reverse the thing. If your parents ask you to play all day and study less. You will automatically get gravitated towards books.
It's our psychology you see. We have an inclination towards things which we are refrained from and we have an allergy from things we are forced upon.
They fell loose and threatened when it comes to their kid’s future. Of course, This is a big responsibility, Isn’t it? But this responsibility, twisted by the future’s uncertainty, catalyzed by the social fraternity, in due course, transformed into a state of absolute frustration.
This is the moment, the problem begins.
This frustration ends up in setting a few pretty hard targets for their kids – “Ranks and Marks”.
Indian Parents strongly believe, these targets would seal and secure the kid’s future. Sadly, these targets are revised quite frequently than Indian fuel prices
Indian Kids scream in pressure, looking for an escape, even a top end rice cooker would have given up. A friend of mine had the same issue. He was doing average with his studies, which was not enough for his father.
Combined studies, Focus on easy to score areas. Nothing worked out. Though he had some exceptional artistic skills. For his Dad, Engineering or Doctor are the only Professions worth taking up.
These days parents are so emotionally drained and dedicate their whole life to children's education. They feel failing in education is next to fail in life.
So is this parenting a curse or boon?
What do you think?
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